INSPIRATION

Nobody Actually Knows What They’re Doing

One day in December 2014, I sat on my parent’s couch and started a blog. Not long after that, I started calling myself a blogger, even though I didn’t fully believe it. I wondered when someone would call me out. When would people notice that I hadn’t been doing it that long? That I didn’t have experience? That I wasn’t that good at it?

Surprise, nobody has ever called me out for not knowing what I’m doing.

That’s because nobody else knows what they are doing either.

We tend to forget that over the course of our existence, we– humans– have made up every single rule for what we are “supposed” to do with our lives, what we are “supposed” to wear, who we are “supposed” to be.

Why can’t you make up what you are supposed to do, who you are supposed to be? You can and you do, every single day.

We are all just making it up as we go along. Nobody cares what you call yourself– if you want to be a baker, start baking and call yourself a baker. Nobody is going to question it.

It is a massive lie that anybody knows what they are doing. If you think I have this life thing dialed in, you’re wrong– I am learning every day, and for everything that goes right, there are ten other things that go wrong. I laugh and I move on, because dwelling and sulking is a shitty option.

We are all just at different levels of accepting the unknowns of life.

We are all at different degrees of accepting and inviting future challenges that we can’t yet name. No one is born knowing exactly how to be what they want to be or how to do what they want to do. All of your heroes figured it out as they went– they all changed their direction as they were moving.

What I do know is this: I want to live deliberately and with passion, and I want to encourage others to live on their terms too. There is nobody on this planet who lives vulnerably and simultaneously feels like they have it all figured out. Anyone who tells you they have it all figured out is smug and closed off to learning.

We may never feel exactly, perfectly confident in our direction. Be okay with not knowing. We all figure it out as we go.

Feature photo by Ali V.

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9 Comments

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    Amanda
    July 25, 2016 at 12:15 pm

    So true. It took me a while to realize this, but man what a relief it was to learn it. I love they way you convey your thoughts!

    Amanda

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    Dana
    July 25, 2016 at 11:24 pm

    Well said

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    Rachel @ Better LIVIN
    July 26, 2016 at 8:07 am

    Ha! I learned this working in the business world in my first year! Everyone calls themselves an expert and speaks with confidence that they don’t necessarily have and it works. “Fake it till you make it!”

    • Erin Sullivan
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      Erin Sullivan
      July 28, 2016 at 4:02 pm

      I have no experience in the business world, so that’s awesome to hear!! Thanks Rachel!

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    Kaela
    July 26, 2016 at 8:34 am

    I am so glad I found your blog! This one is specially inspiring, and funny, because I want to start my own blog. If you have one bit of advice on starting, what would it be?

    • Erin Sullivan
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      Erin Sullivan
      July 28, 2016 at 4:03 pm

      Thank you Kaela! That’s awesome! Great question. The one piece of advice I think is most important is to just go for it. You’ll never feel like it’s exactly right, and EVERYONE has to start somewhere! You will make changes as you go!

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    Mikayla
    July 26, 2016 at 10:42 pm

    I’m so thankful to have found your blog. Your words resonate with me like nothing I’ve ever read before! Keep up the amazing work.. You are helping people.

    • Erin Sullivan
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      Erin Sullivan
      July 28, 2016 at 4:04 pm

      Hey Mikayla, thank you so much! I am so honored to hear that. xo

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